Numbered Discourses 5.111

12. At Andhakavinda

Visiting Families

“Bhikkhus, a bhikkhu with five qualities who visits families is unlikable and unlovable, not respected or admired. What five? They act as though they're close to people they hardly know. They give away things they don’t own. They over-associate with close friends. They whisper in the ear. And they ask for too much. A bhikkhu with these five qualities who visits families is unlikable and unlovable, not respected or admired.

A bhikkhu with five qualities who visits families is dear and beloved, respected and admired. What five? They don’t act as though they're close to people they hardly know. They don’t give away things they don’t own. They don’t over-associate with close friends. They don’t whisper in the ear. And they don’t ask for too much. A bhikkhu with these five qualities who visits families is dear and beloved, respected and admired.”